It happens frequently that we did not stop to be sorry to us because the things go to us bad, seems that the life gives the back us and until the nearest and familiar people they separate from us.

Other times we complained which we have a bad gust of wind and it does not accompany the luck and we focused our attention on contemplating how to the others the life smiles to them and seems that they enjoy everything.

In cases thus, instead of of calming to us and of reflecting and of analyzing coldly to discover if we are being we ourself the first and main cause of our evils, which we do is to sink in the moan and the complaint, we blamed to the life and to those who we have near to be the causes of our misfortunes and, as is logical, our bad gust of wind continues and it becomes chronic because the cause of whichever happens to us we are we ourself. With our form to come, to think, to react, to tolerate to us, we attract envelope most of them the evils that afflicts to us.

Why we are not able to see that we are and only we them causes of our evils? Because we need the main one of the virtues, that are humility, unique virtue able to face we ourself and to take to us to discover the truth to us by hard that it can seem to us.

In my last book, essential Wisdom, I analyze the 14 principles that help us to transform our life, to improve it and to make a greater personal growth possible, but all those principles only have effectiveness if they have direct connection with the principle “zero�, that is universal and the cause of everything: “Our acts have consequences� and what “we do it does to us�.

A reader of this book that attended days ago one of my conferences said to me: “All my life I have been bitter blaming to the world, to the life and my loved beings of my evils and you have taught to me to discover that she is each person with his form to be and to react who I could become its sky, hell or purgatorio. Now, control in me, I know that I am the one who I can be made happy or unfortunate and I stop throwing the fault to him to anybody�.

Today I have wanted ofrecerte, amiable reader, this reflection or drop of wisdom, that also I am made every same day: “I will not be it main cause of my problems and for that reason I do not provide solution to them, because I blame of everything to the others and the life�. We take that step fundamental in the essential wisdom to live today in fullness.


Tender Bernabé
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